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You are so special.

Never has there been or will there ever be someone just like you again.

Unknowing your every thought, word, action and reaction causes all other living beings to react.

Keep your thoughts about your self and others high to increase your healthy energy footprint on this earth.

Each life has countless effects on others.

Thanks to Humanity Healing and Youtube for this beautiful video presentation.

Click here to watch the “The Ripple Effect: The Heartbeat to Eternity”

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There were no other options for this coach. It didn’t matter that his DeKalb, Ill., High School basketball team had ridden a bus two and a half hours to get to Milwaukee, then waited another hour past game time to play. Didn’t matter that the game was close, or that this was a chance to beat a big city team.

Johntel Franklin scored 10 points in the game following the loss of his mother.
Something else was on Dave Rohlman’s mind when he asked for a volunteer to shoot two free throws awarded his team on a technical foul in the second quarter. His senior captain raised his hand, ready to go to the line as he had many times before.

Only this time it was different.

“You realize you’re going to miss them, don’t you?” Rohlman said.

Darius McNeal nodded his head. He understood what had to be done.

The Barbs were playing a non-conference game on the road against Milwaukee Madison. It was the third meeting between the two schools.
The teams planned to get together after the game and share some pizzas and basketball-main_fullsoda. But the game itself between these friendly rivals almost never took place.

Hours earlier, the mother of Milwaukee Madison senior captain Johntel Franklin died at a local hospital. Carlitha Franklin in remission from five-year fight with cervical cancer hemorrhaged suddenly while Johntel was taking his college ACT exam.

Johntel and a few teammates were at the hospital late that afternoon when the life-support system was removed. His mom Carlitha was just 39 years old.

“She was young and they were real close,” said Milwaukee coach Aaron Womack Jr., who was at the hospital. “He was very distraught and it happened so suddenly he didn’t have time to grieve.”

Womack was going to cancel the game, but Franklin told him he wanted the team to play. And play they did, even though the game started late and Milwaukee Madison dressed only eight players.

Early in the second quarter, Womack saw someone out of the corner of his eye. It was Franklin, who came there directly from the hospital to root his teammates on.

The Knights had possession, so Womack called a time out. His players went over and hugged their grieving teammate. Fans came out of the stands to do the same.

“We got back to playing the game and I asked if he wanted to come and sit on the bench,” Womack said during a telephone interview.

“No,” Franklin replied. “I want to play.”

There was just one problem. Since Franklin wasn’t on the pre-game roster, putting him in meant drawing a technical foul that would give DeKalb two free throws.

Though it was a tight game, Womack was willing to give up the two points. It was more important to help his senior guard and co-captain deal with his grief by playing.

Over on the other bench, though, Rohlman wasn’t so willing to take them. He told the referees to forget the technical and just let Franklin play.

“I could hear them arguing for five to seven minutes, saying, `We’re not taking it, we’re not taking it,” Womack said. “The refs told them, no, that’s the rule. You have to take them.”

That’s when Rohlman asked for volunteers, and McNeal’s hand went up.

He went alone to the free throw line, dribbled the ball a couple of times, and looked at the rim.

His first attempt went about two feet, bouncing a couple of times as it rolled toward the end line. The second barely left his hand.

It didn’t take long for the Milwaukee players to figure out what was going on.

They stood and turned toward the DeKalb bench and started applauding the gesture of sportsmanship. Soon, so did everybody in the stands.

“I did it for the guy who lost his mom,” McNeal told the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel. “It was the right thing to do.”

They may not remember our record 20 years from now, but they’ll remember what happened in that gym that night – the life lesson Dave Rohlman, head coach of the opposing DeKalb team on what his players will take away from this experience.
Franklin would go on to score 10 points, and Milwaukee Madison broke open the game in the second half to win 62-47. Afterward, the teams went out for pizza, two players from each team sharing each pie.

Franklin stopped by briefly, thankful that his team was there for him.

“I got kind of emotional but it helped a lot just to play,” he said. “I felt like I had a lot of support out there.”

Carlitha Franklin’s funeral was last Friday, and the school turned out for her and her son. Cheerleaders came in uniform, and everyone from the principal and teachers to Johntel’s classmates were there.

“Even the cooks from school showed up,” Womack said. “It lets you know what kind of kid he is.”

“We maybe don’t have the best basketball players in the world but they go to class and take care of business,” Womack said. “We have a losing record but there’s life lessons going on, good ones.”

None so good, though, as the moment a team and a player decided there were more important things than winning and having good stats.

God bless you all.-thanks.

Yes, DeKalb would go home with a loss. But it was a trip they’ll never forget.

“This is something our kids will hold for a lifetime,” Rohlman said. “They may not remember our record 20 years from now, but they’ll remember what happened in that gym that night.”

Resources

Excerpts courtesy of Rivals High from Yahoo Sports.com and AP

Amid the grieving, a rare act of sportsmanship February 18, 2009.

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Image basketball courtesy of Global Photo and i.chow.com

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Long thought extinct from the American health care frontier one has been found alive and serving his rural patients -a dedicated doctor that make house calls. One has been loving his work for 50 years!

In Yoakum, Texas a sleepy country town, that sprang up around a railroad junction  folks knows Doc Watson.

Over the last 50 years, this tall and lanky family general practitioner welcomed many of the town’s citizens and doctored most of the others.

“I never wanted to be anything other than a family doctor,” Watson said as he sat in the hospital cafeteria on a recent December day. Pork chops and chicken fried steak (“good home cooking,” noted Watson) were on the menu, a reminder of the small-town atmosphere that drew the Baylor College of Medicine graduate to Yoakum in 1958.

The frayed and stained  doctor’s bag he brought with him is marked by the scars of countless moments of birth, death and recovery. Over the years he has served several generations of patients in this town of 6,000 about 100 miles east of San Antonio.

He began his practice charging $3 for office visits and $5 for house calls, but he often accepted other kinds of payment including homemade pies, fresh vegetables, deer meat and sausages. One grateful patient gave Watson, a hardcore golfer, one of her husband’s old 2-irons. It still sits in a corner of his office.

“He’s always right there when you need him,” said Karen Barber, CEO of the Yoakum Community Hospital, where a wing is named after Watson. “There’s never a second thought for him. He just does what needs to be done.”
The night Janet Jaco’s little girl had to be rushed to the hospital with a sudden hemorrhage, David Watson walked the four blocks from his house to the Yoakum Community Hospital every hour on the hour to check on his patient and offer a comforting shoulder to her worried mother.

The night the hospital urgently needed blood for an obstetrics patient, Watson rushed down from his office to donate some of his O-negative, then stayed to call in other townspeople with the right blood type. (He knew who they were.)

Flooded roads  did not stop him on night  from getting to an ailing neighbor; he simply jumped on the tractor, put one arm around the driver and  the other held his worn leather doctor’s bag as they went to the hospital.

Dr. Watson received the Country Doctor of the Year award this month. The honors is awarded annual to a primary care physician who best exemplifies the spirit of rural practitioners.

At 78, he still sees up to 30 patients a day at the Yoakum Medical Clinic, the office where he has worked for half a century. He visits another 30 patients during daily rounds at the hospital and a local nursing home, treats children at the Bluebonnet Youth Ranch and continues to make house calls.

Love what you do -do it to the best of your abilities and the world will be a better place for you having walked and served here.

Thanks Dr. Watson for your dedicated loving service.

Yes Virginia the spirit of Christmas lives on every day through loving dedicated people.

Resources

Country Doctor of Year: 50 years of house calls

–  MONICA RHOR, AP Dec 29, 2008. as reported in YahooNews http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081229/ap_on_re_us/country_doc;_ylt=Assc

Video http://www.breitbart.com/image.php?id=app-0a97c0ec-962d-440d-b410-864d8e3852cd&show_article=1&catnum=0&ch=BNImagesAll:

The art of listening

Listening to another is an acquired art.
Great listeners are in demand in our under sensitive over stimulated, pressured world. Simply hearing another person’s words is never enough. The other person who is talking to you leaves frustrated and feeling like this person does not care enough about me to hear me out and pay attention to me.

Developing calmness by practicing deep breathing exercises, martial arts, meditation is part of the process one may use to be anchored in that quiet space within your heart before the crisis with another happens. This skill should be cultivated in our children from conception.

Listening from your heart.
When someone is speaking to us, First Calm and Relax yourself before they begin to talk. The feeling I get when I’m in that calm some is one of complete focus on the other person. I listen from a caring space deep inside.

Observe
I can observe how the other person has reacted to the experiences being shared. I never assume I know what they are feeling or thinking. Asking open-ended questions about what they are discussing let’s me get their words and as I look into their eyes I begin to sense the pain, anger, frustration..

History
Being a good listener is like being a good detective sometimes. One must ferret out of what you are observing some of what they cannot tell you with their words. Remember even if a person believes they are telling you the absolute truth, Truth is colored by the person’s past experiences and influenced by their emotional state and overall physical, mental and social well-being.

Your skills as a listener can be influenced by:

Personnal background,
Practicing communication techniques
Practice. Listen, Practice, Listen

Learning to Listen – Music to My Ears  Listening
Secrets to Healthy Client/Personal Relationships

There is an art and a science to listening to another human or animal. It doesn’t matter the age of the person whom you’re communicating, coaching or counseling with. Using this skill will improve your self-confidence, inspire your interpersonal relationships and assist clients and businesses to treat each other in a peaceful, loving, respectful manner. Every person wants to truly be listened to.

My first experience of being listened to changed my life. I never anticipated that an initial health interview could set the stage for my career of helping others. I felt, as I shared my challenges with this doctor, that I was listened to on all levels of my being and was heard for the first time in my life. Since the summer of 1979 I’ve been perfecting listening skills.

Learning to Listen

Secret 1. Practice the art of calmness and sensitiveness to all energies. Before working with another person meditate in the morning, and before a session do a few deep-breathing exercises to bring your energy peacefully within yourself. If you have seen someone else before this person, clear all thoughts of their problems or crises from your mind.

Secret 2. When the next person calls or comes through your door, greet the person either at the door with a firm handshake and make eye contact, or if this is a phone consultation always speak with a low, calm, confident voice.

Secret 3. Thank them for coming or calling and ask how you can be of assistance. Assess if this is a medical emergency.  If it is, then send them there immediately. Some people think they would like to avoid the medical bills by coming to you, but this is foolish both for the client and the practitioner. Assure them that after they see the doctor, you would like them to report the findings to you. Be straight forward, clear about your limits and to the point.

Secret 4. If this is not a medical emergency, ask them to tell you their story.  Listen with your heart focused, respectful and loving. Show them by your presence that no one is more important in this moment than this person. Take notes.

Secret 5. Let them talk, only asking questions for clarification when the conversation lags. Don’t interrupt a person’s train of emotional memories and thoughts. This causes them to lose some of their intensity and you lose time and details important to determining the best avenue of care

Secret 6. Recap what you understand the health challenges to be. Go over your notes and impressions before speaking with them. Clarify the situation until both of you are comfortable and clear about how to proceed before suggesting a protocol to the client.

Secret 7. Explain your services, how they may help and where they are comfortable in beginning. Lay out a plan, the costs and method of payment, and time of the next session or consultation. Part of listening is observing and sensing the comfort zone of the person. If the person cannot decide, let them go home and think about it and call you. Set a time for this call to keep the communication clear between you both. People caring enough to listen with their heart builds relationships.

Next article: Finding the comfort zone.

Remember, building trusting relationships is a hallmark of effective listening.


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